How Toyo Baby of Jenifa's Diary Lost Her Virginity, Sexually Abused by Pastor - Actress Reveals in New Book
A 150 pages
new book titled "REBIRTH" by Juliana Olayode a.k.a Toyo baby of popular
television series, Jenifa's Diary, detailed revelations about the good,
bad and ugly parts of her life, career and much more.
Here is a summary of the book in 10 points;
1. She lost her virginity at 17 to her married music teacher
Juliana gave detailed narration of how she lost her virginity to
her married music teacher at 17, how he brainwashed her into believing
he would marry her.
She wrote: "The day finally came. He wanted to move the date
because he was expecting some money that he wanted to use to pay for a
good hotel, but moving it would mean my mum back from church. So, he
settled for a cheap hotel. I still remember the smell of cigarette that
filled the room. I hated the smell of alcohol and cigarette; I still do.
We had to wait at the reception for the room to be cleaned and aired.
"So, we went back into the room, and it happened. It was a
painful experience for me. I cried at different points and he kept
apologising, begging me to keep my voice down lest they think he was
raping me. He told me to relax and bear the pain. In his words, “do not
be a weak woman”. That got at me because I hated feeling or being
treated as weak.I asked for a break. He tutored me some more and tried
again until he finally got through. It was not anything like he had told
me it would be. I saw no clouds, I made no sounds, I felt nothing
special. It was painful all the way, but it was obvious he was
satisfied.
"When he was done, I checked the bed for blood. I screamed!
There was no blood! He told me that not all virgins saw blood. I was so
confused, but chose to believe him anyway. Soon after, he slept, and I
was there crying. Why didn’t I see blood? Even if not all virgins see
blood, why should I be on that list? How would I tell the story of
losing my virginity without blood? Who would believe me that I was
actually a virgin?"
2. Juliana Olayode's mother is an illiterate!
Although her father is educated, Juliana revealed that her mother was uneducated and could not read!
She wrote: "In my letter to my mum, I was able to tell her how
terrified I had been living in my step-dad’s house. I thanked her for
telling me the details of what happened to her after dad asked her to
leave. I told her I was proud of her and that I would make her proud. I
gave it to her and she kept it in her bag. Later on, I asked her if she
had read it and she reminded me she could not read. I wondered how I
forgot that. My dad was the one who could read, not my mum.
"So, your guess is as good as mine. I had to read it to her! I
was so shy. I read it to her and had to explain some parts in Yoruba.
Long before I was done, she was already crying. I said “I love you” to
my mum and it sounded so strange to my ears. I forced the words out of
my mouth and then hugged her. My mum laughed and said I was behaving
like ‘Oyinbo’, like an American."
3. Her pastor abused her sexually!
Juliana also revealed that one of her pastors sexually abused her one time.
She wrote: "I got to church and it was just the pastor there. I
assumed he was the one who picked his children from school that day as
they were still in their school uniforms and they were with him in
church. He told me to come into his office and asked his children to go
into the car.
"In his office, he asked me if I read the scriptures he gave me
and if I observed my prayer time. I told him I did. So he then claimed
God told him I needed a spiritual bath and that I had to take my clothes
off. He claimed his office had been supernaturally made a spiritual
bathroom. He wanted to wash away the dirty water that was poured on me
in my dream.
"As he spoke those words, I began to cry. Was my case that
critical? Why would God want me to have a bath in the pastor’s office?
Couldn’t God wash me without me taking off my clothes? Why all these
complications? The pastor told me to stop crying and that I should
follow God’s instructions through him. He said he would excuse me so God
could do the sanctification. He left his office. I shut the door, made
sure the windows were locked and put the curtains down.
"I was naked in his office. He had told me how to pray and I
prayed. I cried as I did. I saw the door handle moving so I quickly got
up, and got dressed. I opened the door and he came in with oil. He
claimed again that God asked him to anoint my body from head to toe. So,
the anointing session started. He anointed my head, my eyes, and was
moving down. When he got to my chest, he did the sign of the cross and
wanted to proceed to touch me. I stopped him and told him to put the oil
in my hand. I would anoint myself.
"He told me to lie down, that he wanted to anoint me down
there. It was at the point when he wanted to anoint me, I remembered I
had forgotten to wear my pant when I hurriedly dressed up. At that time,
I also remembered the dirty things Mr. F used to talk about. It was
then my eyes were opened and I knew what this man was trying to do to
me. I got upset, took my bag and left immediately."
4. How her Meeting with Mercy Aigbe charged her life
Talking about how controversial actress, Mercy Aigbe's words changed her life.
She wrote: "Someday last year, I met Mercy Aigbe through one of
my friends that works with her, Tosin Odusanya. She was very pleasant
and kind. She answered many of my questions and gave me some serious
words of advice. I could tell she was talking from experience.
At that time, I had just been written out of the Jenifa’s Diary
TV series. I told her about my desire to change my social media account
name from Toyo Baby to another name I wanted to push. I explained my
fears and struggles. After listening to me, she encouraged me on my
stand as a Christian, asked me to stay out of scandals and told me to
maintain good relationships in the industry. In response to my change of
name, she told me sternly, “Do not confuse your fans. You worked hard
for that name. You gave life to the Toyo Baby character. Ride on it!” It
was after my conversation with her, that I got more comfortable with
people calling me Toyo Baby everywhere and I watched God open doors for
me. That meeting with Mercy Aigbe was a great blessing to me."
5. She is only 22 years old!:
Even though she looks and carries herself like a 30 years old lady, Juliana just turned 22, June, 2017!
She wrote: "I finished writing the first draft of this book
some days to my birthday this year. I clocked twenty-two (22) on
Wednesday, the 7 of June, 2017. So, you can easily deduce that I was
born Wednesday, the 7 of June, 1995. Now, I would assume this is the
most shocking piece of information in this book. I have found out that
the top question people are asking Google about Juliana Olayode, is her
age. Now, you know."
6. She was born in a Church!
Julie also revealed how she was born in a church, she revealed how
her mother went into labour for 3 days, and was taken to the church for
prayers and later birthed her!
She wrote: "The last time she called me Aduragbemi was when she
told me how I was born. She was in labour for three days! She kept
seeing a black cat and every time she saw it, she lost her strength. The
strange thing was she was the only one seeing the cat. The midwives did
not see it. They were beginning to think she had a problem.
"On the third day, she asked to be taken to church. The head of
the prayer team prayed over a cup of water and gave her to drink. At
that moment, my mum’s strength was renewed and she stopped seeing the
cat. That’s how I came into this beautiful world at C.A.C. (Christ
Apostolic Church), Oke-Iyanu, Ogba, Lagos. That was the reason behind my
name, Aduragbemi."
7. She started menstruating on the 5th of April, 2010
She wrote: "On the 5 of April, 2010, I got home, took off my
uniform and saw a blood stain. At this time, I was in Senior Secondary
School, at Babs Fafunwa Millenium, Ojodu, Lagos. I did not remember
having any injury and mum was not home. When I discovered where the
blood was coming from, I started crying. How would I explain this to my
mum? I kept cleaning, but it kept flowing. I hurried to Toyosi
"Oyesile’s place. She asked what was wrong and I explained to
her, perplexed at bleeding non stop, without an injury. She laughed at
me; she laughed so hard, she nearly choked on her laughter. I was
irritated at her insensitivity. I wanted to walk out when she pulled me
back, locked the door and said, “Congratulations. You’re now a woman”.
She hugged me very tight."
8. Her role in Jenifa's diary gave her fame NOT Money!
She also revealed that her role in Janifa's diary made her famous
NOT rich, contrary to what people think! She also talked about how she
hustled for Ushering jobs as low as 5k just to make ends meet after
acting the Toyo baby's role in the Comic Series
"The plans my mum and I had were exaggerated. I was paid for
the series, but the money I received could not do all my mum and I had
fantasized about. In retrospect, I laugh at the things my mum had
planned to do with the pay; we had big dreams. I honestly did not know
how big my role in Jenifa’s Diary would be when I got the role. I
thought I would be done after the first season. I was surprised when I
was called back season after season. I got so busy. Jenifa’s Diary
practically became my life; I was almost always on set.
"Even though I was already acting in the Jenifa’s Diary TV
series, whenever I got a call for ushering jobs, I took them. I needed
the extra pay. I did decent ushering jobs. I had values I could not
compromise. No club, bar or night ushering jobs. No jobs with indecent
outfits. I did the regular wedding, and concert jobs. The pay for decent
ushering jobs was as low as Five thousand Naira per job but for me it
was worth it.
"My mum was concerned for me, wondering why I would be on TV
and still be going for such cheap jobs. I told her I had to do so. I
could not sit at home when not on set doing nothing and I definitely was
not going to sleep around. Dee did not like the idea either, but he
understood my position.
"There were times I went for ushering jobs and people
recognised me. I smiled at them. At times, fellow ushers jeered at me,
wondering what Toyo Baby was doing serving as an usher with them. I
always found a way of laughing my way out of the teasing. I was living
with the Adiguns at this time. TiTiMi always gave us monthly stipends.
Even if I asked for more before the next was due, I was sure they would
give me, but I wanted to make more money myself. But eventually, the
ushering job started getting very embarrassing. There was a day I went
all the way to Shagamu for an ushering job and after a long day,
working, we were paid One thousand Naira. The Madame said she had not
been paid and asked us to write down our account details. Except she
plans to pay tomorrow, I got no alert.
"At that point, I cried to God. I felt cheated. It was getting
too humiliating. I cried to God and He made me know I should stop the
ushering jobs. It was only God that could stop me in spite of the
embarrassment. I was asking Him to make sure the woman paid me, but He
said I should stop ushering. I was initially upset with God, but before I
left the place of prayer, He had comforted me."
9. She could NOT go to school even after gaining admission cos of poverty!
She wrote: "I graduated from Babs Fafunwa Millenium Senior
Grammar School, Ojodu- Berger, Lagos. I was the Head Girl in my final
year at school, loved by the principal, Mrs. Adebayo, other teachers and
students. My Valedictory Ceremony in school was a very emotional one. I
was missing everyone and everything already, coupled with the fact that
I was afraid of facing life outside the four walls of my school.
"Before I graduated, I took the JAMB exam and I passed. I was
already an undergraduate at the University of Ibadan as I had been given
admission to study the course I applied for, Mass Communication. Mrs.
Adebayo was all smiles when I made the information public. She announced
it to the school with so much pride. People applauded and my teachers
congratulated me.
"Little did I know I was going to lose the admission. My mum
tried so hard to raise my acceptance fee, tuition and other necessary
payments, but she did not make headway. I told her not to worry; I
assured her our finances would be better the next year. She still tried
to raise it, but we missed the deadline. She was bitter for days and
wondered why they would not extend the deadline. That was how I missed
my admission to the University of Ibadan. My principal and my English
teacher, Mrs. Obabolujo called me to follow up. When I disclosed the bad
news, they were upset with me and told me I should have kept them
abreast with how things were going.
10. Her parents are separated and are both married to different people now!
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